Saturday, December 11, 2010

"What's Good for the Goose is Good for the Gander" (Or ) "Message to my Potential Daughters in Law"

Dear future potential daughter in law

Since I  wrote the official "husband wannabe" letter the other day, I think it's only fair that I pen one for those that potentially will be my daughter in law. The problem is (and yes I feel very guilty writing this) I've thought a lot more about what I am looking for in a husband for my daughters than I have for my son's wife. 
Why is that, you ask?
I've been spending my time trying to make sure he is a good husband for you!

After thinking on it for a few days, here's "the list" that I've come up with...

The  no brainers:
Love Jesus more than you love anyone or anything else. Put him first always. Be involved in ministry. Share what God is doing in your life. Be brave and wise with your words. Secondly, know that in this family, marriage is forever. You do whatever it takes to make it work.

Here's what we'll be watching for:

Be fun!
Prepare to be a missionary's wife.
Love children.
Be an encourager.
Enjoy life!
Have a gentle spirit.
Be a lover of all kinds of music.
Be fun!
Listen. Think before you give advice.
Liking NCIS is probably non negotiable.
Don't nag or nitpick.
Be a reader.
play games, but don't play games with his heart. Or I'll play games with your head.

Know that if you win his heart, you will have it forever. And don't ever take it for granted.
Be fun!
Know Gibbs rules. (Okay, not really. but it probably would impress him!)
You should probably learn spanish.
Be forgiving, easygoing, and a little bit organized.
And last but not least, have fun!

We will love to have you as part of our family. I can already hear you giggling in the next room when he says something funny. I can see you smile at him that special couple smile when you think I'm not looking. I'll try not to give too much advice (unless you ask of course) but you will need to know that I plan on spoiling my grandbabies (especially the blue eyed ones!)

I'm so looking forward to meeting you in about 8 years or so. Until then, study your Bible, practice the fruits of the spirit, be wise with your relationships, and learn those Gibbs rules! :)



Sheila Siler said...

Gibbs! Am I too old for Levi? hee hee. Good words of advice Linda.

Recovering Church Lady said...

Love, love, love this post! I am a new MIL and I totally "get" what you are saying about potential DIL's. I love my new DIL, had her picked out before my son did!